Being new to the recovery process, he will need individualized attention and guidance that more experienced group members can provide.
As a man progresses in his journey there are times when revisiting this mentor process is not just valuable, but vital to his growth.
Pure Life Alliance has taken a holistic view of the mentoring process. this is so we can strategically partner, one on one with a man during specific times in his journey.
The three mentor manual modules are intended to shepherd men along their purity journey. Each module has material that is specific to a different stage in a man’s purity and recovery journey.
Frequently Asked Questions
How long do we wait between modules?
Six to nine months, because it will take time for a new man to integrate the learning from the previous module into his journey.
When should a man start the next module?
Your role as a coordinator is to assess member’s readiness for the next module and to assign a mentor.
When should a new man begin First Steps?
Within one to two weeks of starting in a group.
What is the best time for a new man and his mentor to meet?
While it may not be possible, it would be ideal for a new man to meet with his mentor 31/2 days after his group meets. A busy or more realistic schedule will likely dictate a more convenient meeting time, possibly even right before or after group.
What is a good location for a mentor meeting?
Since discussion from mentor manuals tend to be quite challenging, best practice is to meet in a “semi-private” environment. Even a coffee shop with background white noise can work surprisingly well. Do not meet in homes or cars.
How do I decide if a member who has gone through a module with the group still needs to go through it a second time with a mentor?
If it’s been less than six months since a member went through the previous module before the group starts going through the next one, that member should still go through the next module with a mentor at a later time.
Should a man have the same mentor in each module?
You could, but it’s desirable to get a new point of view for each module from a different mentor.
How do I know if someone is ready to be a mentor?
Minimally, a mentor must have completed the module. It is also preferable that he believes investing in the life of another man is part of a servant-hearted effort to invest in someone’s journey.
What if we can’t finish a lesson in one week?
That’s OK! It may take longer than one week for a man to process the content in a given lesson. Completing the material thoroughly is more important than sticking to a rigid timeline.
I don’t like lesson “X”. Do we have to do it?
Yes. Every lesson is important and serves a purpose. It will be very helpful for you to communicate with the mentor team about why you don’t like it. We take your feedback seriously and will continue to revise the mentor manuals in the future.
Can only coordinators be mentors?
No. Mentoring another man means going through the material in the module with him and sharing personal journey and insights. Any member genuinely on the journey can mentor another man. In fact, it is important for all members to mentor another man when they are ready.
What if I can’t find a mentor for a group member?
Be open to ALL of the men in your group who have completed the module in question. Then, contact the mentor team for help looking outside your group.
I love/hate these mentor modules. Where can I write a review?
We’d strongly encourage you help future men by writing a review on either Amazon or the iBooks store.
What if I have a question about mentoring that isn’t answered here?
Please reach out to the Mentor Team at the PLA office - 503.481.0729 or firstname.lastname@example.org.